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crossing the line

so i get the usual "wanna go watch (insert movie) today after work?" in this case, it was stealth. in most movies or tv shows, most viewers would protray that as being asked out on a date. but for us, it's just like a regular hanging out question. i'm sure it's the same for most ppl i know. and we answered "yes" or "no" to the person who asked with no stress of whether you like the guy or have hurt the guy. it's so weird. i think that's why they say friends cannot date each other. you're not sure how to cross the line. where is the line?! how do you know if anyone is crossing it or not without actually hearing/saying "yes i'm asking you out on A DATE"

like one time, someone said to me that we should eat dinner together sometimes. and i'm like "sure just let me know when" and he acted surprised that i said "sure" and he's like "really?" at first i was curious to why he sounded surprised and then it later hit me that he might've asked me out on a date and i said "yes" without really realizing it.

not good.

but i'm so used to going out one on ones with a guy friend that it never struck me as a big deal... or a date.

and how about the times i want it to be a date? one time i asked a guy friend out and i had to add "on a date" in order for him to know that it's no regular hanging out thing. at first he's like "sure let's do it. let's pretend" and when i said i'm not, he said, "you're joking right?"

where's the line?

i should really get back to work

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basicstories
Aug. 1st, 2005 11:18 pm (UTC)
Fer real. We use to do shit all the time. I guess this is the little complexes in life. If a girl suspects she should say "sure, as a friend or cool who else is going". Guys should add "... so it's a date?"
arnogseel
Aug. 1st, 2005 11:20 pm (UTC)
you're fast. i added a little more to the entry.

but yeah. so you have to add in "a date" to make it a little clear huh? that's the only way?
arnogseel
Aug. 1st, 2005 11:23 pm (UTC)
oh yeah... and what if she doesnt suspect? LOL like what happened to me!

i had to be like "oh i'm really busy..." and never calls him back

i'm so mean :(
basicstories
Aug. 1st, 2005 11:33 pm (UTC)
That's so mean. You don't deserve a hug!
arnogseel
Aug. 1st, 2005 11:39 pm (UTC)
i know :(

but if i knew it was a date, i would've just said "no"
(Anonymous)
Aug. 2nd, 2005 04:22 am (UTC)
Forget "where's the line?". The real question is "when's my turn?" :)
arnogseel
Aug. 2nd, 2005 04:23 pm (UTC)
if you tell me who you are, it would be easier for me to answer that question. ;P
sasalee
Aug. 2nd, 2005 07:01 am (UTC)
i hate that word "date." haha.. yes my issues with that word.

as for the "so it's a date?" thing.. dude.. i say it all the time as to confirm plans. lol. i say "lunch date" or the like a lot too.. so ppl would go all "oOoOoohh.. was he cute?" and i'm all "no, it wasn't a date date."

oh the confusion. i think the line is drawn at a diff spot for every person, and every relationship you have with the person.
gxcad
Aug. 2nd, 2005 09:42 am (UTC)
saying date twice works for me...but then I think this is not a prob for me. If I ask ppl out on a date, its a real date. If ppl ask me out on a date, it depends who. If it was arnogseel, I'd take it in a friendly way. She has that personality and reputation;). Not that thats a bad thing, its really easy as a guy to be a friend of arnogseel coz there is none of this awkward girl guy stuff like with some other girls.

-Ken
arnogseel
Aug. 2nd, 2005 04:24 pm (UTC)
which i think it's harder on my part to tell whether or not i'm on a date with a guy or not. i dont want the guy to think we're on a date when i think we're not! lol
lokistic
Aug. 3rd, 2005 06:27 pm (UTC)
awwww. so.. all the time that u went out with me.. it wasn't dates? I'm hurt now, eliza.. i'm hurt..

ON a side note:
let's go on a date Ken, i miss you.
arnogseel
Aug. 3rd, 2005 07:03 pm (UTC)
hey carlos! since you are on LJ, check out my friend's only post :P
doxasticlogics
Aug. 2nd, 2005 01:30 pm (UTC)
What ever happened to dinner and a movie as being your standard "date". Anything before dinner is not a date, at least in my books. Now with special events such as concerts, comic book conventions, carnivals, puppet shows thats when it's hard to tell if it's a "date" or not.
arnogseel
Aug. 2nd, 2005 04:25 pm (UTC)
but that's the thing. a dinner and a movie with any guy is not a date with me. like remember? didnt we go dinner and movie before we went out? you didnt consider it a date then! :P well i'm sure we had dinner, dont remember the movie tho
doxasticlogics
Aug. 2nd, 2005 07:48 pm (UTC)
lol, the first time I met you was a dinner plus movie but with 4 other people and the second outing was just dinner...however their was entertainment after the eating hah.

*If you feel the need to indulge yourself in the reading of a possibly frivolous ranting continue other wise SPOT reading here for the love of god*

The Dating Game is aptly named and everything leading up to the date is all about properly reading signals then acting appropriately in order to incur the best possible outcome...wtf...sooo I suppose a few courses in statistics and some poker lessons to learn peoples tells, would in theory, help any one person dramatically. Now realistically, you might as well believe in fate because even after take the previously mentioned classes/lessons and emerge it wisdom gained in life up until now and I am sure you will come to find that reading people is REaly haRd and thus making the entire prelude leading to the first date, at the will of our innate incalculable nature of human existance. Here I will stop only because I've been awake for 23 hours strait and fear that this rant might wonder further off topic trying to compare similarities between discussion and the meaning of life... I oppalogize for my ranting.
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