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what's your type?

1. Confident or shy? Confident
2. Cute or Cool? hmm... cute
3. Fashionable or casual? doesnt matter as long as it looks good
4. Interesting or funny? interesting... trust me... i laugh at things easily, so funny isnt really that big of a deal lol
5. Mysterious or out-in-the-open? mysterious, i always want things i cant have har har har but uh, not too mysterious. i can move on fast too lol
6. Intelligent or witty? intelligent. grissom :D
7. Conversationalist or more than words? actions speak louder than words. besides, i'm pretty chatty myself, i can get most non-chatty ppl to talk
8. Rich or middle class? middle is fine for me. thanks. rich guys have more options LOL
9. Romantic or buddy type? buddy but knows how to be romantic at times :P
10. Intellectual or sporty? intellectual. :)
11. Cuddly or has to be a good kisser? cuddly, a good kisser can be trained har har har
12. nice teeth or nice eyes? nice teeth.
13. Understanding or patient? patient is good... without patient... how can he take time to understand?
14. Musician or athlete? this is hard LOL ask me again later
15. Smoker or non-smoker? NON, i think i've came to a conclusion that i cant date smokers
16. Drinker or non-drinker? non is preferred lol
17. Traditional or go-with-the-flow? go-with-the-flow, but remembers the manners that has been passed down by tradition. e.g. respect elders
18. Adventure seeker or laid back? adventure seeker, i dunno why i cant stand ppl who cant risk or try new things
19. Long or short hair? short please
20. Shorter than 170cm or taller than 170cm? just my height or taller is fine
21. Wear glasses or contact lens? whatever, contacts?
22. Good listener or good teller? good listener
23. Is there a guy like your type? nooo clue, but if you know one, send him over lol

so i was talking to heather about this. she teased how i picked both sides for almost everything! so i changed it to picking only one side for most lol but anyway i was talking to frank about "my type" and i'm reminded that i'm not sure what "my type" is. i was told once by der that i dunno what my type is or i dont date my type. but frank told me something that made a lot of sense... "i dont think anyone really [know what is their type] or anyone really follows through on it" which i agree because i dont :X. he said that when you like someone, there really isnt an explaination to why.

but if that's the case, then why do we know when someone is NOT our type? if we can pin point that a particular person is NOT our type, why cant we pin point what is our type? frank's answer? "because ppl change. there are so many charateristics to a person, it's hard to determine what is compatible and what is not. one person might be more tolerable than others"

i always figure the only way to find out if someone is our type or not is to get to know them more. unfortunately for my experiences, if i like the dude, many times i'm already dating the guy before i figure that out. and when it doesnt work out, i move on. next time, i should really get to know the guy before i get too involved.

anyway, open for discussion to the whole "you type" deal, should there actually be such a thing? (such as there's a list of qualities that's "your type".) agree or disagree?




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halocon
Jun. 6th, 2005 08:46 pm (UTC)
well, let's put it this way. if you get to know the dude too much it may be too late to get together. i disagree with "type." if you like someone, you just do. but if you're going into the whole "they're my type" deal, then, im thinking, you're really just liking what they do and not really the person. i dunno, this is a really tough subject. i'll think about it and return to this. more to come on dateline....i mean...whatever.
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arnogseel
Jun. 6th, 2005 10:33 pm (UTC)
no it totally makes sense.

esp. the end. i've never thought of it that way. but it's true. if you're not attracted to them physically, usually you rule qualities/compatiablity out even before you got to know them... but that doesnt mean that after you got to know them, you wont get with them :P
(Anonymous)
Jun. 6th, 2005 09:55 pm (UTC)
Here's my take on it. Sorry if it sound stupid. Or acutally , feel
free to call me out on it.

I believe that this game can be almost mathamatically formulated:

Let these qualities that you hold for your future soul mate (SO) to be
Q. These Q, in essence, can be rearranged in order of their
importance. For example, non smoker might be more important than
fashion. Once they are rearranged, they can be assigned a value, in
the rank of importance. Let's call those QV. Also, there's something
that you absolutely hate, so you would put a negatvie quality value
(QE).

So, in order for you , or anyone else for that matter, to consider
someone to be a SO, that SO must process certain amount of Qs, if not
all. What determines how much Qs one process can be dictated by a
threshold T. For example, someone's "type" might be non smoker, rich,
fashionable and funny. But this person could have more Qs that she /
he seeks.

Let's put them all together. One would consider to date someone in
which that someone processes certain number of qualities that one seek
for.

The sum of all QV and QE , therefore, must be greater or equal to T,
in order to be true.

Finally, we can see that all these things are variable, it could be
different for every person.

This makes some interesting points to the following question, what
does it mean that she / he is not my "type"?

Based on that theory, it could mean that either:
a) could not find enough qualities that you seek for. i.e. Sum QV < T where
not enough QV
b) has more QE than QV. ie. Sum QV + QE < T where QE is more than QV

So in essesce, the answer to the "type" question can boil down to some
type of mathimetical formula that we all can do ourselves.

Finally, we can see that all these things are variables, it could be
different for every person. These variables are affected both by spatial and temporal variables as well. For example, T might change due to Age (A) or location (L).

Or i could be totally offbase. To my defense, I didn't have my coffee
this morning and i'm bored out of my mind at work
arnogseel
Jun. 6th, 2005 10:32 pm (UTC)
thank you for reminding me of math! lolol

i think i understand what you said LOL
points i've already knew existed but never really looked at it that way.
(Anonymous)
Jun. 7th, 2005 05:49 am (UTC)
Who is this??
dudum7
Jun. 7th, 2005 12:44 am (UTC)
Wat's my Type?
Look up..."HOT!"
arnogseel
Jun. 7th, 2005 12:45 am (UTC)
Re: Wat's my Type?
LOL no ultra handsome?
dudum7
Jun. 7th, 2005 12:47 am (UTC)
Re: Wat's my Type?
huh? that's "Ultra Handsome!!"
arnogseel
Jun. 7th, 2005 12:50 am (UTC)
Re: Wat's my Type?
OH my bad, hot = ultra handsome duh! lol
joslyn
Jun. 7th, 2005 12:57 am (UTC)
awww, thank you! :)
joslyn
Jun. 7th, 2005 12:58 am (UTC)
p.s. its next week. find your melee cd! ;)
arnogseel
Jun. 7th, 2005 01:01 am (UTC)
remind me again on friday LOL
arnogseel
Jun. 7th, 2005 01:00 am (UTC)
sorry haha i moved you up to the most recent entry. lol
garfpooky
Jun. 7th, 2005 01:32 am (UTC)
I don't think it's realistic to think that someone fulfilling some checklist of qualities is going to be "the one," but I think having such a checklist helps to weed out the grossly underqualified...and they are not my "type." :P
dudum7
Jun. 7th, 2005 04:09 am (UTC)
cute icon! =)
garfpooky
Jun. 8th, 2005 12:32 am (UTC)
thanks...i use it as a seasonal icon, lol :)
halocon
Jun. 7th, 2005 08:32 am (UTC)
i see we've trailed off a bit...
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