so i get the usual "wanna go watch (insert movie) today after work?" in this case, it was stealth. in most movies or tv shows, most viewers would protray that as being asked out on a date. but for us, it's just like a regular hanging out question. i'm sure it's the same for most ppl i know. and we answered "yes" or "no" to the person who asked with no stress of whether you like the guy or have hurt the guy. it's so weird. i think that's why they say friends cannot date each other. you're not sure how to cross the line. where is the line?! how do you know if anyone is crossing it or not without actually hearing/saying "yes i'm asking you out on A DATE"
like one time, someone said to me that we should eat dinner together sometimes. and i'm like "sure just let me know when" and he acted surprised that i said "sure" and he's like "really?" at first i was curious to why he sounded surprised and then it later hit me that he might've asked me out on a date and i said "yes" without really realizing it.
not good.
but i'm so used to going out one on ones with a guy friend that it never struck me as a big deal... or a date.
and how about the times i want it to be a date? one time i asked a guy friend out and i had to add "on a date" in order for him to know that it's no regular hanging out thing. at first he's like "sure let's do it. let's pretend" and when i said i'm not, he said, "you're joking right?"
where's the line?
i should really get back to work
like one time, someone said to me that we should eat dinner together sometimes. and i'm like "sure just let me know when" and he acted surprised that i said "sure" and he's like "really?" at first i was curious to why he sounded surprised and then it later hit me that he might've asked me out on a date and i said "yes" without really realizing it.
not good.
but i'm so used to going out one on ones with a guy friend that it never struck me as a big deal... or a date.
and how about the times i want it to be a date? one time i asked a guy friend out and i had to add "on a date" in order for him to know that it's no regular hanging out thing. at first he's like "sure let's do it. let's pretend" and when i said i'm not, he said, "you're joking right?"
where's the line?
i should really get back to work
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but yeah. so you have to add in "a date" to make it a little clear huh? that's the only way?
i had to be like "oh i'm really busy..." and never calls him back
i'm so mean :(
but if i knew it was a date, i would've just said "no"
as for the "so it's a date?" thing.. dude.. i say it all the time as to confirm plans. lol. i say "lunch date" or the like a lot too.. so ppl would go all "oOoOoohh.. was he cute?" and i'm all "no, it wasn't a date date."
oh the confusion. i think the line is drawn at a diff spot for every person, and every relationship you have with the person.
-Ken
ON a side note:
let's go on a date Ken, i miss you.
*If you feel the need to indulge yourself in the reading of a possibly frivolous ranting continue other wise SPOT reading here for the love of god*
The Dating Game is aptly named and everything leading up to the date is all about properly reading signals then acting appropriately in order to incur the best possible outcome...wtf...sooo I suppose a few courses in statistics and some poker lessons to learn peoples tells, would in theory, help any one person dramatically. Now realistically, you might as well believe in fate because even after take the previously mentioned classes/lessons and emerge it wisdom gained in life up until now and I am sure you will come to find that reading people is REaly haRd and thus making the entire prelude leading to the first date, at the will of our innate incalculable nature of human existance. Here I will stop only because I've been awake for 23 hours strait and fear that this rant might wonder further off topic trying to compare similarities between discussion and the meaning of life... I oppalogize for my ranting.