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if what you're about to say next is mean, dont say it. especially if you have no reason to state that mean comment. no matter how funny or/and truthful you think it is. there's really no point in saying it. nothing positive can really come out from it.

feelings could get hurt.

AND then you might end up spreading that mean and negative thought into someone else's mind when they arent even thinking about that.



i cant wait to have a kid so i can teach them that lol


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sasalee
Oct. 5th, 2005 11:25 pm (UTC)
that lesson might work in the playground but what about the real world?
what about all the idiots who dunno what they're doing or saying? feelings get hurt intentionally and unintentionally. though you can't blame someone for indirectly hurting feelings, it really shouldn't be an excuse for them to not think b4 they speak either.

i guess what i'm trying to say is.. no one is going to get babied throughout their lives. you learn to grow thicker skin. in the end, being sensitive hurts only you. i'm not saying being sensitive is bad, but some things you just have to roll off you. it's pointless to get upset over everything.

though you don't have to join in on the "negativity," but the truth hurts... might as well make it funny. lol. </ sarcasm>
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i say this all after a very crappy day involving some very sucky people. things i said weren't nice... but i needed to vent. is that so wrong?
sasalee
Oct. 5th, 2005 11:26 pm (UTC)
though you don't have to join in on the "negativity," but the truth hurts... might as well make it funny. lol.

that was sarcasm, btw. don't kill me. =P
arnogseel
Oct. 5th, 2005 11:40 pm (UTC)
my post isnt about beign sensitive. it's about covering all bases to make sure you're not beign insensitive to ppl.

i dunno how other ppl live their lives. nor can i stop ppl from what they will say. i am not gonna teach my kids to be sensitive about everything that ppl say nor am i gonna tell them to blame any one who's being mean. on the contrary, i would teach them the opposite. i dont believe an eye for an eye

i just want them to live their lives not saying mean things to ppl simply out of no reason. as you know, feelings do get hurt sometimes whether you could be joking or not. and i wouldnt want them to live their lives maybe losing a freind and not knwoing why. "but why? i was just joking"

the truth does hurt. when needed, by all means i support whoever to say it. but when it's not needed, i believe it's best to be left unsaid. there is no point to it.

venting is not wrong. if you need to vent, sure. that's needed :P
sasalee
Oct. 6th, 2005 12:38 am (UTC)
i don't believe i said anything about retaliatory comments.

i just meant sometimes saying mean things is unavoidable, cuz there's unintentional moments.. AND THEN there's people who are overly sensitive. things said were not with any malicious intent and then perceived as malice.
arnogseel
Oct. 6th, 2005 12:42 am (UTC)
yes, you are right some ppl are overly sensitive. that you cannot avoid.

but my main thing is about the intentional part. parts you could avoid.

devipz
Oct. 6th, 2005 12:10 am (UTC)
I think some people do say hurtful things and play it off like a joke... a joke that isn't funny. Since I know I can't change other people, I can make sure that I don't say things that are 'jokingly' hurtful. If I want to be mean, straight up and do it. ;) I also agree with sasa:

"i guess what i'm trying to say is.. no one is going to get babied throughout their lives. you learn to grow thicker skin. in the end, being sensitive hurts only you. i'm not saying being sensitive is bad, but some things you just have to roll off you. it's pointless to get upset over everything."

If you're on the receiving end of mean, it's part of life, and you try and deflect what these people say. That's another lesson for the kids.
arnogseel
Oct. 6th, 2005 12:13 am (UTC)
oh yeah. just to make it clear. i agree with what you said. but you are talking about the receiving end. whereas, my entry is about the party giving it.

:)
basicstories
Oct. 5th, 2005 11:35 pm (UTC)
Reality is harsh and reality is mean. If you're a dumbass or whatever you deserve to be called one.
arnogseel
Oct. 5th, 2005 11:53 pm (UTC)
what's the point of calling someone a dumbass?

reality is harsh and mean. so if life is already harsh and mean to everyone, why put more misery in their lives?
basicstories
Oct. 6th, 2005 12:32 am (UTC)
So they'll know they're a dumbass and wise up. It's tough love.
arnogseel
Oct. 6th, 2005 12:35 am (UTC)
calling them a dumbass wont wise them up.

ppl can hear you but getting them to listen isnt by using mean words.
basicstories
Oct. 6th, 2005 06:14 pm (UTC)
Sure they will, they'll know someone is calling them a dumbass and if they don't like it, they will get with it. Being mean and having spite is one of the best motivations.
arnogseel
Oct. 18th, 2005 05:07 pm (UTC)
to some ppl but not all ppl

they'll just shut you out
gxcad
Oct. 23rd, 2005 11:12 pm (UTC)
I think if someone is a dumbass they will be too dumb to figure out that you are really calling them a dumbass and meaning it.
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