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to adopt?

so i know i'm totally jumping the gun here... and no wise jokes about when you're getting the invitation! but recently conversation has came up for me about adopting. no. not with me and j! but with me and other friends about their friends. recently i've been hearing stories about ppl adopting. and i'm not sure if it's bc it became more popular recently to adopt or it's always been the same but i'm at an age where ppl are adopting now... either way. it's got me thinking.

maybe when i'm married and stuff, i should adopt. the other day my friend was telling me that the population has doubled, tripled, some big number since the 90s. i said "well that's bc ppl are living longer now, diseases that are killing ppl before we've found cures for, etc". and another friend in the convo said, "why not just adopt then?"

and i thought, yeah, why not? there are tons of orphans out there that need a home. i'm almost certain that if i were to adopt, i would love him/her as my own. so why not? i can skip the 9 mo process. the "morning" sickness. the cravings. the weight gain. etc etc. and most importantly, some lovely kid, who deserved to be loved, will have a home.

so even tho the process to adopt a kid is a lot of work, i think down the line, it seems to have more pro to adopt a kid. but i'm still sitting here thinking i want to give birth to a kid. it's kinda weird.

i guess i want to go through the whole process of feeling him/her kick me. the feeling i get the first time i lay eyes on him/her and the first time holding him/her....

well, as i said, i'm totally jumping the gun. let's take it one step at a time hahaha not to mention, it's totally two ppl's decision, not mine lol unless i never get married :X



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May. 6th, 2009 06:37 am (UTC)
you could always do both? :) depends on how many kids you ultimately want to have...
May. 6th, 2009 07:19 am (UTC)
i thought about that except i think i would do either or. not both. bc i'm afraid that i would favor mine over the adopted or my own would pick on the adopted bc they are not really related or the adopted would always feel out of place. bc he's not blood related. i dunno.

unless i do something what j's mom did... which was adopt after your kids are already grown and on their own. this way, they are old enough to know better, etc. and by then, i may adopt more than one so they dont feel different than the rest of the family. someone to play with. lol
May. 6th, 2009 09:55 pm (UTC)
Or your adopted kid could grow up being a total bastard. Now the question is would you want an Asian baby or an other? I was reading this story about a black family who adopted a white baby and people would always think the girl is being kidnapped when they see her out with her adopted black parents.
May. 6th, 2009 10:00 pm (UTC)
dude that sucks, in regards to the black parents being accused bc they have a white baby.

i think i would want an asian baby. there's tons of kids in china!

btw, i like to think ppl who grew up to be total bastards are usually bc they werent raised properly. so i would like to think that kids raised by me wouldnt be total bastards lol
May. 6th, 2009 11:18 pm (UTC)
Would you tell your adopted Asian baby that she was adopted? I mean, she may end up being resentful and you know, tell you to leave her alone because you're not her real mom.

Take Jolie's baby, he's going to grow up to be this total asshole. How do I know that? Because he is a huge brat already and has a thing for guns and destruction.
May. 6th, 2009 11:31 pm (UTC)
yeah, i'll tell them that i've adopted them. i think it's best to know soon. all of j's adopted siblings know and they are only 6, 9 and 10. they talk to them about their orphanages and where they are from.

and if i'm a loving mom, why would they resent me? also, kids resent their real parents all the time. i dont think it has to do with being adopted.

bottom line for me is that i believe how you are is shaped on how you were raised. and i'm gonna do my best to be a good mother and role model and if my kids turn out to be some bastard, than so be it. but i doubt it has anything to do with whether they are my flesh and blood or not. it's how i raised them.
May. 7th, 2009 07:02 am (UTC)
I know this sounds weird but I'd prefer my own baby because if you compared it to products:

My own kid would feel "new and sealed in the box"

While an adopted kid would feel "Refurbished to factory specifications"

Its like starting over new, but you know someone out there used to own it.
May. 7th, 2009 07:13 am (UTC)
ahaha well if i do adopt, i plan to adopt very young. like before they are 1 or 2 kind of young.

so in your terms, it would be like "like new. used once" kinda of thing. almost to the point where you can add "original packaging included" haha
May. 8th, 2009 12:36 am (UTC)
Uh Ken! WTH! how can you compare like that?!?!

very interesting though...hahaha
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